You may remember the article a couple months ago that made a splash in Christian circles entitled “You Don’t Need a Date Night.” It was written by blogger Tim Challies and it made the point that couples should just enjoy being together. While I agree with him about enjoying the normal-every-day-being-together, my husband and I realize at this season of our lives how essential a date night is for our marriage.
We have a seven month old and my husband is in seminary. He also works full-time and is an intern at our church. Our life is full. When we do see each other, our conversations are about crawling, car seats, and coworkers.
Before we had a baby, our life looked a lot different. We were able to spend a lot more time just hanging out together. The same goes for when school is out for the summer and we have a lot more leisure time. We didn’t really need a date night because it was always just the two of us.
But right now, in this crazy season of life, date nights have become important to our marriage for several reasons.
Recharge Our Marriage
Date nights for us are like a marriage booster. They remind us why we like hanging out together and why we are best friends. It reminds us that we have other things that we can talk about besides our responsibilities. Date nights give us something to look forward to and something to reminisce about. For us, we need to set aside all the busy-ness and focus on one another. It revitalizes our marriage.
Focus on the Priority
For me, date nights have been a good reminder that my husband is my first priority. It can be so easy to pour all my time and attention into taking care of the screaming baby. But my husband needs to come first. Date nights allow me to focus on my husband.
Navigate the Seasons
Perhaps it is because we are young, but I feel like every couple of months something in our life changes. A new job, a new apartment, a new baby. As soon as it feels like we have gotten the hang of it, something in our life changes. Date nights have become essential for us. We need time to talk through the current season of our life. We talk through the bigger things that require concentrated time and attention. It has been so beneficial to us to do this.
Doesn’t Need to be Fancy
I don’t think I need to tell you that date nights don’t need to be fancy. And they don’t even have to be on a regular basis. You just need to spend time together. Especially time talk to one another and time to enjoy one another’s company. You will feel recharged, and more unified.
So go get an ice cream cone together or have take-out at home – whatever recharges your marriage, focuses you on your first priority, and helps you navigate the seasons of your life.
Need some ideas? Here are some date night ideas for those on a budget!