Marriage Advice from a Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich

peanut butter and jelly Peanut Butter and Jelly are two different things – Just as peanut butter and jelly are separate spreads, so a husband and a wife are two different people. The peanut butter does not force the jelly to be like it, nor does the jelly try to force the peanut butter to be like it. Husbands and wives should appreciate that their spouse is a different person than them.

Peanut Butter and Jelly complement one another – The differences in peanut butter and jelly do not cause the sandwich to be divided. Rather their differences blend together to create the beauty of PB&J sandwich. Similarly, husbands and wives must use their unique strengths and weakness to complement and sharpen one another.

Peanut Butter and Jelly cannot be separated – Once put on a sandwich, PB&J cannot be separated. They are so blended that they have become one flesh…err… one sandwich. The husband and wife’s lives are so intertwined that they have become one. As they seek Christ together, the husband and wife draw closer to one another becoming one of heart and mind.

Peanut Butter and Jelly can be a bit messy – Who can make a PB&J sandwich without making a mess? It is impossible to not get some on your hands or mouth. Marriage is also messy at times. But when the Gospel permeates a marriage, it takes two broken sinners and creates a beautiful picture of Christ and the Church. Struggles become opportunities to display Christ’s love.

Peanut Butter and Jelly have bread as their head and foundation –  A peanut butter and jelly sandwich has bread has its foundation and as its top. Likewise, a married couple must have the Bread of Life as their foundation and their head. They must build their marriage upon the principles of Scripture and submit to Christ as their head and authority in all things.

A peanut butter and jelly sandwich is common thing and easy to take for granted. Likewise, it is easy to let marriage become normal. We must work hard to not take it for granted. We must appreciate our spouses, pursue unity, work through messes, and remember that Christ is our foundation and head.

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  • Simply delightful and what a wonderful comparison! I love your final one… bread as the head and foundation. Perfect!

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the SHINE Blog Hop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.

  • this is the cutest thing! I never would have thought to write something from this angle! Loved connecting with you via the weeks end link up!

  • alishia

    What a great take on something that everyone can relate to. 🙂 (visiting from SITS!)

  • love the analogy. and PB&Js. 🙂

  • Holy Craft

    Love the correlation. I’ve been married for 17 years and it gets better every year!

  • This post was so refreshing. I love it! Thanks for sharing this. As a married woman, I can definitely relate to this. Can’t wait to share this with my husband!

    P.S. Stopping by from SITS. 🙂


  • Such a cute post! I love PB&J… never thought of marriage in this way! Peanut butter and jelly can get a bit messy – loved that! 🙂

    • Chereen, thanks for stopping by! Can’t wait to check out your blog too!

  • Bethany

    This is such a great post. Cute and filled with insight. 🙂

  • This is such a wonderful post!! I love this analogy, and it really hits home today! (As things have been rather sticky and messy lately!)

    • Jacque, I am so glad it could be an encouragement to you! Keep pressing on! The hardships are what draw us closer together as husband and wife. Lean on the Lord as you guys work through things together!

  • You are so sweet! Thank you for your kind words!

  • Sandra, thank you! Oh that is so interesting! What do you guys eat instead?