A Watched Pot Never Boils: Why Waiting is So Hard

a watched pot never boils

I am horrible at waiting. I don’t wait well. I get anxious. I get weepy. And I pray a lot of “Why Lord?” prayers.

I am three days overdue with my first baby now and the waiting is not getting any easier. I think the phrase “a watched pot never boils” was actually referring to overdue women. The more eagerly we expect this baby the further away the birth seems.

I have had a lot of middle of the night bathroom breaks to think about why waiting is so hard. This is what I have come up with.

Waiting reminds us we are not in control. 

Our flesh craves control. We want things to work out when we want and how we want. We get frustrated when things do not go our way. Waiting reminds us that we are not sovereign, almighty, or all-powerful. The waiting room is where the Great Physician cures our pride with a big dose of humility.

Waiting causes us to face our fears. 

Waiting is scary because we have to deal with all our “what if” fears. My mind is always tempted to go to the worst possible scenario when my plans are put on hold. When we do not immediately get what we want, we have to face our doubts and worries. Waiting gives us the opportunity to actively trust in God’s good purposes and ultimate plan. Waiting is the haunted house in which we must face the fears that are lurking in the corners of our hearts.

Waiting forces us to deal with our selfishness. 

How do we handle it when someone else gets what we want? Do we respond with joy when someone easily gets what we have agonized in prayer over? Waiting forces us to address the selfishness that reigns our flesh. Waiting is the battleground in which we fight to keep selfishness from capturing our hearts.

Waiting is hard work. It is hard to simultaneously fight our flesh, face our fears, and stop our selfishness. Yet it is the means that God uses to conform us to His image and to help us to grow. He orchestrates periods of waiting so that we might become more like Him.

So the question is, how are we going to use these waiting times? Are we going to wallow in self-pity or see them as opportunities to grow?

Here are six reasons that God might keep you waiting.  



5 Benefits of Reading the Same Thing

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For the past few months, I have been reading Philippians over and over and over again. It has stretched me and simultaneously been a huge blessing in my life.

I encourage you to challenge yourself to pick a book of the Bible (or passage) and read it every day for a significant period of time. The benefits of reading the same thing will bless you in these five ways.

  1. It will stretch you  – I will be honest I have had to work hard at reading the same thing over and over again. My flesh gets bored with reading the same thing. I have to fight it and force myself to read the same thing day after day. But making myself do the same thing is helping me grow in the area of discipline.
  2. It focuses your devotions – Reading the same thing has helped my devotions to be more focused. I know what I am spending my time on and don’t spend any time flipping around wondering what I am going to read. It also helps me focus my prayer life as I pray through things I have learned in the passage.
  3. It helps you know the passage – I am learning inside and out what the book of Philippians is about. It has been encouraging to be able to easily recall where specific verses are in the book. I have become very familiar with each chapter from reading it so many times.
  4. It helps you memorize the passage – My long-term goal is to memorize the book of Philippians. Reading it day after day has already helped me to almost memorize large chunks of the book.
  5. It reveals how there is always more to learn – I learn something new every single day. It does not matter how many times I read the book, there is always a new truth that sticks out to me each day.

Start today! Reap the benefits of reading the same thing!

3 Things #shoutyourabortion Won’t Change


There is something particularly heart-wrenching about being 39 weeks pregnant and stumbling across the Buzzfeed post entitled The Hashtag #shoutyourabortion.

I had just finished putting the final touches on our son’s nursery when I stumbled across the article. My husband and I have been praying for this baby for two years. We have dreamed, planned, and longed for the day where we would sit in our nursery brimming with the excitement that he could come at any moment. We couldn’t be more excited about the precious life that is growing in my belly.

So you can imagine my heartache when I looked at Facebook right before bed and saw the article. An article celebrating throwing away the life inside you, the little life that I had so desperately prayed for.

It broke my heart.

In a culture that is attempting to revolutionize and normalize a sin issue, it is important that we remember 3 things that the hashtag #shoutyourabortion will not change.

1. Killing Babies Does Not Liberate Women 

I do not know where along the line we got the idea that killing babies will liberate women. Killing babies does not make women more capable, more respected, or more successful.

The pro-life movement is not a war on women. We do not think that women are of lesser value than men. Quite the opposite, in fact, we celebrate women as being equal and valuable in the sight of God. We want women to know that there are options available to them. We want them to know that having a baby will not ruin their life or make them less successful. But most importantly, we want them to know about true liberation.

True liberation does not come through killing your child, it comes through knowing Christ. Scripture tells us that we are all slaves to our sin and destined to spend eternity in hell. But Christ gave up His own life so that we could be freed from the power of sin and death and spend eternity with Him. This is true liberation – giving up your life for the good of another.

2. Your Life is Not More Valuable Than Someone Else’s 

I was particularly heartbroken when I read the tweet from the blog post, “My life is more valuable than a potential life. #shoutyourabortion”

This directly contradicts everything said in the Bible. The Bible tells us that every person is created in God’s image. That means that from the moment of conception each life is equal and precious in the sight of God. Man or woman, twenty years old or twenty days old past conception, all life is valuable to the Lord.

Furthermore, God’s Word tells us that children are a blessing. Whether or not they were planned, each life is a gift from the Lord specifically created in His image.

To be a mom, you have to die to self. From the moment that baby is conceived, you have to share your body with another life. And once that baby is born, you have to continue to choose the good of the child over the good of yourself. It is not easy, but we make that choice because our lives are not more valuable than our children’s lives.

3. God WILL Be Victorious Over Sin and Death 

As a believer, it is easy to get bogged down with the horror of sin in our world. But we must remember that this is not the end of the story.

What Satan does not want us to remember is that at the end of the story God has victory over sin and death.

Revelation 21 tells us the end of this story.  The Apostle John writes,

“Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He will dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself will be among them, and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain;the first things have passed away.”

This chapter goes on to say that the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers and immoral persons will be thrown into the Lake of Fire. There are serious consequences for rejecting the Word of God.

But there is hope! We can experience true liberation! We can repent of our sins and follow after Christ. Even if we have already had a #shoutyourabortion moment we can be redeemed and reconciled to God. Christ sacrificed His body for us. He came to die and bear our punishment so that we could be forgiven.

Abortion is about ending a life, but Christianity is about giving up your life for the good of another, as Christ has done for us.


A Knack for Encouragement


Have you ever had coffee with someone and left incredibly encouraged? There are some people who just have a knack for encouragement. The Lord has blessed them with this spiritual gift and they use it to build others up.

I don’t know about you, but encouragement is not my strongest point. That might be ironic because I write a blog specifically to encourage women. But encouraging others is not something that comes naturally to me. I have to work hard at it. I have to put thought into it. Because if I don’t, I can go a long time without once saying something encouraging to my brothers and sisters in Christ.

So how do we develop a knack for encouragement? There are five truths we need to recall in order to develop this knack.

Know that everyone struggles. 

Satan tries to use trials and hardships to make us feel like we are alone in our struggles. It is easy when going through something hard to focus on ourselves. Instead of focusing inward, let us use our struggles as a means to encourage others. If we are going through something hard, chances are someone else is as well. It may not be the exact same thing as you. But as my husband always says we all have to learn the same lessons just in different ways. Let us be an encouragement to one another as we face difficult circumstances.

– Need for fellowship. 

We can’t encourage one another if we do not spend time with one another. It is impossible to know one another’s struggles if we are never in the same room. In Hebrews 10:24-25, God calls believers to get together and encourage one another. If we are not doing this, we are disobeying the Lord. Get coffee with someone, call someone on the phone, stay a few minutes longer after church and encourage someone this week.

Acknowledge sin.

Sin is a reality in each of our lives. And encouragement is both positive and negative. We must encourage one another to put on godliness, but we must also encourage one another to put off sin.Hebrews 3:13 says that we have the responsibility of encouraging one another to fight sin. Sin is deceitful and it takes other believers in our lives to help us see sin. Let us encourage one another to put off sin.

Choose compassion. 

We are not going to be very good encouragers if we are not compassionate. We must put ourselves in their shoes. We need to strive to understand a friend’s struggles so that we can serve and love them. When someone is pouring out their heart to us, we must have gentleness, kindness, patience. As it says in Colossians 3:12, these are attributes that we must actively put on.

– Keep pursuing. 

Encouragement is hard work.  It takes vulnerability as we share our struggles. It takes time and energy to see other people’s needs. It takes hard conversations to point out sin and to graciously receive correction. It takes constant thoughtfulness and patience as we choose to be compassionate. It is hard work, but it is so worth it! There is nothing better than leaving a conversation with someone refreshed and excited to pursue the Lord! Let us pray that the Lord would help us as we pursue others and seek to develop a knack for encouragement.

Who do you know that has this knack for encouragement? How do you put these truths into practice? 


If I Wasn’t a Christian, I’d be a Feminist


If I wasn’t a Christian, I would be a feminist. I fully believe that women can do what men can do. I believe that women can be as educated, as successful, and as skilled as men.

But because I am a new creature in Christ, I believe that women are specifically designed to be keepers of the home. God gave us the intelligence, ingenuity, and skills to be managers of the home.

Our culture wants to tell us that this profession is undignified and unsatisfying. But Scripture tells us that being a helpmate,  caretaker of children, and a manager of the home is a high calling.

My husband and I are choosing for me to stay home and care for our son. I have a Bachelors of Science and I had a great job. Yet we have chosen to forsake the financial benefits in order for me to stay home. Why do we do this?

Uphold Scripture 

Scripture is clear about the role of women. Titus 2:5 says that women are to be workers at home. (Obviously, this does not mean that women can never work outside of the home. There are times where it will be necessary for a mom to work outside the home and that is ok!) But it is pretty clear that our priorities and energies as women should be focused on the home. My husband and I choose for me to be home so that we uphold what the Word of God calls women to do. We are blessed to be able to do this, but it definitely requires some sacrifices.

Love My Husband

My role in the home frees my husband up to carry out his calling. If he does not have to worry about cooking meals, doing laundry, or caring for the home, he is freed up to do his ministry. I can love and serve my husband by helping free him to do the ministry that the Lord has called him to.

Train Up Our Children

Because I will be staying home with our children, I have the ability to train our children. It is much harder to influence your kids when you are away from them. Our goal as parents is to train our children in righteousness and we want as many opportunities to do that as possible.

Counter Culture

In a feminist culture that is about shattering glass ceilings, being pro-choice, and raising kids in a village, staying home with your children is about as counter cultural as you can get. Rachel Jankovic eloquently writes this about being a mom,

“Christian mothers carry their children in hostile territory. When you are in public with them, you are standing with, and defending, the objects of cultural dislike. You are publicly testifying that you value what God values, and that you refuse to value what the world values. You stand with the defenseless and in front of the needy. You represent everything that our culture hates, because you represent laying down your life for another–and laying down your life for another represents the gospel. Our culture is simply afraid of death. Laying down your own life, in any way, is terrifying.”

I know that being a stay-at-home mom will not be easy. It requires me to sacrifice my own goals, needs, and desires to meet the goals, needs, and desires of my husband and children. I will have to battle culture and my flesh to uphold Scripture, love my husband, and train my children. But with God’s enabling grace and power, I am so excited to pursue this high calling!