Proverbs 21:19 says that it would be better to live in the desert than to live with a contentious woman.
Those are strong words!
I stopped working outside of the home last week and with about a month left before our baby is born I have a lot more time on my hands. With that extra time, it is easy to dwell on the things that are going wrong in my life.
As I listed off my worries to my husband this weekend, he stopped me and gently asked that I help him out by having a good attitude. He told me that it would be hard for him to have a good attitude if he knew I was sitting at home worrying.
This humbling reminder caused me to think about how much my attitude affects my husband. My words have the power to build him up or tear him down.
We often think of serving as actions. But as always it starts with the heart. I have the unique opportunity in my role as a wife to serve my husband through my attitude. And as a homemaker, I can set the tone for the atmosphere that is in our home.
As I thought through how I could serve my husband with my attitude, I asked myself these questions:
- Do my words tear down or build up my husband? 1 Thess. 5:11
- Does my attitude encourage him to have a godly attitude? Phil. 2:5
- Does my husband trust that I will honor him in my speech? Prov. 31:11
My attitude affects my marriage more than I realize. I can discourage my husband, stunt his walk with the Lord, and even affect our physical relationship with my negative attitude. But I also have the power to encourage him, stimulate his walk with the Lord, and invigorate our spiritual and physical lives!
“But what if I am single?” You ask. These principles are still applicable to you! As a single person, you need to be cultivating a godly attitude, encouraging spirit and a trustworthiness. If the Lord chooses to give you a spouse, these lessons will help in marriage. And if He does not, these lessons are still necessary for life as a believer in the body of Christ. Are you an encouraging friend, roommate, sister-in-Christ?
Whether or not you are a wife, ask yourself today, would it be better to live in the desert than to live with you?